I’m in the middle of counseling a few couples that will get married in the next weeks. Out of everything I do, this is one of my most favorite things to do. I love pouring life into young couples that are about to be married. I love their perspective. It always challenges me to revisit my relationship with my wife. I remember when we walked into our premarital counseling appointments. They were informative and proved to be helpful in the first few years of our relationship. A

We share a bathroom with our kids for the first time. If you have small kids, you know… This isn’t exactly pleasant. The other day our middle son was at the dentist. He told them stories, making them all laugh, and then told my wife, “I don’t know why I can remember all these stories, but I can’t remember to wipe my own butt.” I’m over-showerer. I shower at night, in the morning, and maybe more if I need it. This is entirely too much showering, and I get that. (Please… No lec

Somewhere in the unwritten laws of social contracts that we superimpose on relationships is the following misunderstanding, “If you’re good at this relationship, you won’t right.” That’s a lie. Healthy relationships experience conflict. How can two people, with different perspectives, personalities, and backgrounds, live in functional intimacy without conflict? It’s simply impossible. Your differing perspectives, personalities, and backgrounds will create more than enough con

Do you remember life before you had kids? I do. I didn’t know much about parenting, but I could spot a parent that wasn’t doing their job like an unathletic kid gets singled out in a game of dodgeball. I can remember seeing the screaming baby or the child throwing a tantrum and thinking to myself, “That’ll never be my kid.” I’m sure I’m not the only one that’s felt that way. Parenting seems like such an awfully easy job from the sidelines. We now have three kids: an eight-yea